As one from a background filled with drama, trauma and dysfunction it was challenging to learn how to start stopping the behaviors that perpetuated the patterns of my past. I came up with this to guide me: talking about what I think, feel, do, don’t do, did or want to do is healthy.
Commenting on, criticising or focusing on what others think, feel, do, say, do, don’t do or what I THINK they should do, say, do or not say or not do – is not.
Do I always get it “right”? Not hardly! But this gives me a place to start or return to that allows me to be self-determining if I’m maintaining healthy boundaries or butting in.
Human being in training 🙂