Thats what we do every January 1.
Or we used to anyway.
For a long time I simply gave up on trying to create a different life for myself.
Hell. New Years or anytime during the year. I felt so defeated and despondent over my failure to quit smoking (8 years now!), change my diet, get to the gym, lose weight, go back to school etc.
I believed I was destined to live life as a failure.
Until I discovered some truths that set me free.
For someone from a background of drama, trauma and dysfunction “change” is something that can often throw us for loop or send us back down that dark hole of dark despair when we “fail” again.
The good news?
When we understand that “change” equates to “growth” it helps us get past the idea that we “can’t”.
Is NOT in deciding we are going to “change” and then expect it to happen and be long lasting because we gave it a whirl but rather in knowing how to trick our brain into making change – even difficult change – engaging and dare I say “interesting”.
We can seek out all the “professionals” we want – but until we are willing to find a way to engage in the process and the daily practice …. We will continue to feel like “failures”.
Breaking self defeating patterns is NOT the rocket science we’ve been led to believe it is.
And “failing” is a part of the new pattern as we learn to learn from when it didn’t work to figuring out what might work better.
Mindful Mantra: I AM fully capable to create the change that will change my life. My best IS good enough and I AM more than “enough”.
Those negative thoughts that make you feel like you’re still getting that emotional beat down?
Are just thoughts.
And as Louise Hay says…
Thoughts can be changed.
Here is an article that can help you make the shift from “I can’t” to “I did”:
So why is it so hard to keep our New Year’s resolutions? Or any promise of change made to ourselves for that matter?
This actually has everything to do with how our brain is wired, and how it makes new connections. You see, the information in our brain follows a certain path. The thing is, the more we use a certain path, the stronger it becomes. It grows into some kind of super highway. Not only does the information travels easier and faster, but it becomes drawn to the most travelled road. If you wish to take the other path, you need to consciously override this autopilot, which demands quite some cognitive effort actually. This is what happens when we try to put in place new habits. Slowly, over time, as the old highway isn’t used that much anymore, it will downgrade to a smaller road, or even a small path. This means that as long as the old road is bigger than the new one, our first reaction will be to take the old one, making a mental effort to override that decision, and then take the new one.
READ THE ENTIRE ARTICLE HERE: How to keep your New Year’s resolutions | My brain and I
Here to 2016 being all you have hope for and so much more!