Patronizing People (And Some Ways to Deal With Those Who Talk Down To Us)

Patronizing People (And Some Ways to Deal With Those Who Talk Down To Us)

Relationships. Can be messy, challenging and difficult for those of us from backgrounds of drama, trauma and dysfunction. Especially when we’ve not been able to get the help we need to learn to identify and resolve our family patterns AND our own patterns that contribute to the-dance-that-never-ends. One of the issues we can find ourselves dealing with is situations in which those who consciously, or unconsciously, have themselves on a pedestal or see themselves as having all the answers.

Karma’s Not A Bitch But A Teacher (Self – Sabotage)

Karma’s Not A Bitch But A Teacher (Self – Sabotage)

One of the things that we can often struggle with as survivors of bad things is the idea that somehow we deserve all the bad things; we haven’t yet “earned” our salvation. This can bleed silently into our days as we struggle with deeply ingrained feelings of worthlessness, hopelessness and…

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Narcissists, Psychopaths and Manipulators

Narcissists, Psychopaths and Manipulators

This is a touchy subject, especially for the Walking Wounded. And for years I felt probably similar to many others. I hated, despised and was disgusted by those who had harmed me physically, sexually, emotionally and psychologically. I was enraged at the realization that first my family could wound me…

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It is Never “Too Late”

It is Never “Too Late”

Many of us have been traveling this healing path for a very long time. Damage done to us in the drama, trauma and dysfunction. And – sometimes the help we got that wasn’t so helpful and oftentimes harmful can leave us wondering “Is it too late for me?” “Will I…

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When It Feels Like You’re Dying…

When I first started on this journey I thought I would die from the grief that ripped me apart as I started separating myself from those who’d contributed to my trauma. The one thing that has helped me to keep going was first born of anger and a need for…

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Recognizing Emotional Manipulation

Recognizing Emotional Manipulation

Ok; here we go again. Well intentioned, yes. Misdirected perhaps. The focus of “learn how to spot an asshole” leaves us externally focused and always wondering “who can I trust” instead of teaching us how to trust ourselves. SO…with that said I invite you to consider this article (link below)…

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Every “Black Sheep” is Really the Family Scapegoat

Learning to recognize the core issues of what has become called “mental illness” is, to be honest, the core of reclaiming our sense of “self” and learning to see ourselves as creators of our lives v.s. victims of life. Today a short post on learning to recognize that the source…

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Living Life as a Chameleon; Enmeshment, Enabling and Empowerment (Poor Boundaries)

Compartmentalizing my life was something I was totally unfamiliar with. Coming from dysfunction I learned that I had not developed healthy sense of self because my initial instinct to protect myself from hurtful experiences was punished, guilted and shamed. I had developed no clear lines, or boundaries, that defined and…

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I just wanted to be taken care of (emotional dependency)

I just wanted to be taken care of (emotional dependency)

I discovered a “tell” of unhealthy dependence vs healthy interdependence; the one who is always doing the care-taking often ends up needing to be taken care of because we burn out.

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