When Family Hurts

When Family Hurts

A hurtful family can leave deep souls….is it possible to heal from this?

The Real Cause of Depression May Have Nothing at All to Do With Your Mind : Waking Times

The Real Cause of Depression May Have Nothing at All to Do With Your Mind : Waking Times

What we have come to call “depression” and known as a “chemical imbalance” is really much simpler. It is also not a “disease” let alone a “disease of the brain” but rather, what is being discovered, is the body telling us by the way we feel and function (or don’t…

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Just Be “You”

Just Be “You”

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There Was A Reason

From the Empowering Solutions Facebook page archives…. There was a reason I struggled and suffered and it wasn’t because something was “wrong” with me but that I’d been conditioned from early on to tolerate the intolerable; to not resist, to surrender my power, to be compliant and obedient. My empowering…

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Getting UNComfortable With Chaos and Crisis

Getting UNComfortable With Chaos and Crisis

Very often as one starts traveling this path from there, where we’ve been, to where we want to be we can find ourselves stuck in patterns of what I call “chronic chaos”. This – chronic chaos – may be that place where “nothing ever seems to go right” or “why…

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When It Feels Like You’re Dying…

When I first started on this journey I thought I would die from the grief that ripped me apart as I started separating myself from those who’d contributed to my trauma. The one thing that has helped me to keep going was first born of anger and a need for…

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Complex Trauma

Complex Trauma

Complex trauma is complex because it impacts the development of “self”. This is why most “treatments” are ineffective for trauma survivors from abusive/dysfunctional families; they fail to address these issues as developmental. It only stood to reason for me that if I learned in the drama/trauma and dysfunction how to…

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Shame and Blame

Shame and Blame

We can and must place responsibility (blame) with our abusive parents and other caretakers (or paid “helpers” for those of us victimized by the mental health system) for how their abuse fucked us up. But then we must also take full responsibility for learning to overcome this and what we…

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I just wanted to be taken care of (emotional dependency)

I just wanted to be taken care of (emotional dependency)

I discovered a “tell” of unhealthy dependence vs healthy interdependence; the one who is always doing the care-taking often ends up needing to be taken care of because we burn out.

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